"What He Must Be... If He Wants to Marry My Daughter"

Author: Dr. Voddie Baucham
Genre: Non-Fiction, Christian Life and Thought
Publisher: Crossway Books

I picked this book up after a friend's enthusiastic recommendation. While I didn't think she would recommend something that wasn't worth recommending, I still wasn't sure what to expect from this book, considering today's view of courtship and marriage, even among Christians.
I was thrilled, however, with what I discovered. What He Must Be is far from being just another 'make sure your little girl gets a good one' book. It's a veritable instruction manual on how parents - particularly fathers - can work alongside their daughters to find and choose a suitable spouse for her.
This is a great book for fathers who know they want a great son-in-law and a good man for their little girl, but aren't sure about how to define that 'great' son-in-law.
This is a great book for fathers who want to raise sons into solid, godly men worthy of taking godly women as their wives.
This is a great book for young men who desire to be good Christian husbands but aren't entirely sure what the biblical requirements of a good husband are.
This is a great book for young women who want to be godly wives and to have a godly husband.
If you haven't got the idea already: I love this book!
Today's culture has twisted and polluted our concept of marriage into something God never intended for it to be, to the extent that most Christians can't even define the respective roles of Christian husbands and wives as the Bible defines them. This book takes care of that step by step. Dr. Baucham walks readers through what it means to have a multi-generational vision for your family, what the biblical roles of a husband are as opposed to what our society has made them, a father's role in protecting his daughter's heart and in evaluating potential suitors, and more.
This is a book that will require multiple re-reads, simply because there is so much information to digest, but that doesn't bother me a bit. Dr. Baucham laces the serious material with doses of southern humor and drives his points home with touching anecdotes from his own life.
The thought of trying to evaluate a potential suitor can be intimidating, and it certainly isn't something that we can afford to take lightly, but in What He Must Be, Dr. Baucham makes it clear that it isn't rocket science or brain surgery. It's immensely important, and it can be difficult, but it doesn't have to be complicated.
I can't say it enough: read this book! Give it to your relatives and friends to read. It's worth it.

1 comment:

  1. I've read it, and I agree: it's a really good book! Very helpful for me, as a girl, to have a better idea of what I'm looking for. My brother has read it twice, and he enjoyed it as well. I would definitely recommend it :D


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